I know I haven't posted for quite a while, but I wanted to wish everyone a happy holiday season. And for those suffering from "holiday blues," I have posted a video below that includes a definition and 10 ways on beating the holiday blues.
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Recently, I have had many friends, acquaintances, and others tell me that they have recently broke up and are having a difficult time. There are some very helpful suggestions on www.wikihow.com about breaking up and dealing with everything that comes thereafter. I have made a list of some of the ones that I believe are most helpful. Pleas visit the links below. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me.
Positive affirmations are one of the best ways to reduce stress and increase your peace, happiness and success. Let me tell you how. A positive affirmation is a positive declaration that something is true. In other words, it is a statement of something that is true and it is stated in a positive way. An example of a positive affirmation is “I am a lovable person.” Saying something like, “I will not let this get me down,” is NOT a positive affirmation, because it is stated in a negative way. Positive affirmations help you to combat some of the negative or dysfunctional beliefs that you may have "learned" about yourself. Some examples of negative/dysfunctional beliefs are: "I don't deserve to be successful," or "I am an anxious person," or "Being happy is difficult and takes a lot of work," or "I am not smart enough, attractive enough, good enough, etc." These negative/dysfunctional beliefs become part of the subconscious mind and often do not allow you to move forward to become successful in life. In order to feel peaceful and happy and have the success you deserve, you must combat these beliefs, and this takes time. Research has shown that it takes one to three months of continuously repeating something before it even begins to become part of your subconscious. In order to completely replace old beliefs, it takes even longer. So, if you really want to get something accomplished, you should have a list of positive affirmations that are stated in a positive way, because they will help you to focus on the positive. If you want to get a LOT accomplished, you should have a LOT of positive affirmations, a whole list of them! I have always had a lot that I wanted to accomplish, so I do have a list of positive affirmations hanging on the mirror in my bathroom. Do you want to know what my list says? It says that I am calm, confident, safe and secure. It says that I am positive, outgoing, and caring. It says that I am excited about my future and my career. It says that I am intelligent, creative, healthy, energetic, and successful. And, if you want help starting a list of your own positive affirmations, email me at ChristianPerez_MFT@yahoo.com.
How does change affect our stress levels? How does change affect our sense of peace, happiness, and success? Well, in a world that is constantly changing, we must adapt. This means that not only must we be accepting of change (which helps to decrease stress), but we must also make changes in the way we do things (which helps to increase success). Change is very stressful to many people. This is because we get accustomed to doing the same things every day, even if that means putting up with that abusive boss at work, or those unruly children at home. At least we know that if we respond in the same way we have in the past, we will have our job tomorrow and our kids will still love us. We definitely do not like to think about what would happen if we rock the boat, because who knows what will happen. Right? Additionally, if we are confronted with something new, or something that we have not dealt with before, we don’t know how to react because we don’t know what will work. So, we have to put some thought and effort into it. And, no one really likes to do that unless they are working on a crossword puzzle! But there are actually three things that we can do in stressful situations: we can either change the way we think about it, change the way we deal with it, or remove ourselves from the situation completely. But in order to relieve stress and be successful, we need to change something. Since we usually can’t change anything or anyone else, we must change ourselves! If you would like to talk with me about some different ways to deal with your stressful situation, please send an email to ChristianPerez_MFT@yahoo.com.
By now, you must know that organization plays a major role in relieving stress and increasing success. However, by staying organized, I do not mean that you should micromanage yourself (or anyone else, for that matter) by adhering to a strict schedule. “Staying organized” means keeping things neat and tidy, so you can easily find them. It also means making “TO DO” lists and keeping a day planner so you know when things are due, and how long it will take you to complete them. One of the things I do to stay organized is schedule all of my appointments on a calendar that I hang on my wall and look at every day. In addition to this, I also schedule reminders on my cell phone. This way, not only can I see my upcoming appointments on my calendar, but my cell phone also notifies me when my appointment is coming up. This helps me remember birthdays, anniversaries, dentist appointments, teleconferences, board meetings, and anything else that I want to schedule, including fun activities, such as break-times, weekly outings, and vacations. When I do this, my stress decreases and my productivity increases, which is important to being successful. If you notice that you are on your computer more than your cell phone, you may want to install scheduling software on your computer. Scheduling software will also notify you of your appointments and due dates every time you log on to your computer. So decrease your stress and increase success! Stay organized!
Well when was the last time you listened to your own advice? We have all heard that going outside to get some fresh air helps to “clear the mind.” This is because the air outside is usually richer in oxygen than the air inside your home or office and your body and brain need that oxygen for proper functioning. But going outside also helps in other ways. Going outside exposes us to sunshine, which also helps us both physically and mentally. Physically, sunshine helps us by causing our bodies to naturally produce Vitamin D, which is important in maintaining proper organ function and assisting with calcium and phosphorous absorption. Mentally, sunshine helps by stabilizing chemicals in the brain that help us to get more restful sleep and also decrease feelings of stress and depression. So remember to go outside and get some fresh air and sunshine, but remember to do it in moderation, take proper precautions such as wearing sunscreen and protective clothing, and talk to your doctor if you are at an increased risk for skin cancer.