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I read a very interesting article tonight in the October issue of Fortune magazine. In the article, Jim Collins, a business management guru, discusses top businesses that turned a profit every year for the past 30 years, even in tough times. He purports that the one thing that separates these top companies from other companies is that the top companies pace themselves. In other words, when times are good, top companies will hold themselves back and, for example, limit their rate of expansion to 20% so as not to grow too fast. When times are tough, top companies will push themselves to make the same rate of expansion. This allows them to set a stringent standard, which helps to build confidence, especially when performance is accomplished in adverse conditions. It also prevents them from entering a “boom” and “bust” cycle.
After reflecting on this article, I thought about how this relates to our personal lives. Many of us do not pace ourselves. When things are going well and we feel good, we try to get as much as we can done. We say “yes” to all the jobs that people throw at us: “Yes” to that extra project at work; “Yes” to babysitting for our sister; “Yes” to that little side job that will pay extra money (only to realize later that the “little” job turned into something monstrous!); “Yes” to helping our friends out; “Yes” to the… you get the picture. Suddenly, we realize we are exhausted. Our immune system tanks and we are sick in bed for the next two weeks. All the things that we were hoping to accomplish suddenly get put on hold and nothing gets done. However, if we pace ourselves, learn to occasionally say “No,” and accomplish things at a steady pace, we can accomplish a lot more, without burning ourselves out.
This sounds a little familiar to me. I’m having recollections of childhood story time… “The Tortoise and the Haire.”
Setting a goal is kind of like making a wish and then planning for it to happen. The first thing you need to do when setting a goal is to figure out what you really want (your ideal or your dream). After you’ve done this, then you need to figure the approximate length of time it will realistically take you to achieve your goal. You will also need to figure out the methods you will use to achieve it. But, the key is to WRITE DOWN your goals and your plan, and then post this in a place you can see every day. In the literature I have read, people who write down their goals achieve them MORE THAN 80% of the time. People who do NOT write everything down achieve their goals LESS THAN 20% of the time. So, make sure to write down your goals. Let’s give an example. Let’s say that I want to buy a new home. However, with my current salary and savings, I probably can’t afford the home that I want. So, before I can get to the long term goal of buying the home that I want, I have to make a plan. So, I write down my long term goal, the new home. Then, I need to find out the cost of the house, what it will take for me to get a loan, and what the monthly mortgage will be. So, I write down that I need to contact the realtor selling the home and a loan accountant. Most likely, because my goal is a lofty one, I will need to increase my monthly salary, increase my savings, and figure out the best way I can do this. Then, I take everything I’ve written down, and transfer it onto another piece of paper so that it makes sense. I write down my long term goal at the top, in big, bold letters. Then I write the savings and monthly income I will need below my goal. Below that, I write how I can achieve this, and where I can get more information, if any, on how to achieve this, such as reading books on how to make myself more marketable so I can increase my salary. Once I’m done, I post my goal up in a place where I can see it every day, so I am reminded that I need to work on it if I really want it. I work on it a little at a time, and check on my work every few months, until, voila I have my new house! But in addition to having large long term goals, I like to have smaller short term goals too, such as planning something fun every week. This gets me through the week with something to look forward to. In fact, I like to have weekly goals, monthly goals, and yearly goals, in addition to large, long-term goals. And, I stay motivated and focused on my goals by posting them all up in a place where I can see them. If you would like an example of a worksheet that I use for setting goals, please email me at ChristianPerez_MFT@yahoo.com.
What do I mean by setting good boundaries? Setting good boundaries basically means that you learn what you can and cannot handle and then, politely, let other people know. Once you communicate what you are willing or able to do, and what you are NOT willing or able to do, you must stick to it. In other words, you must follow through on what you say or what you promise. One point about setting good boundaries, it does not always get favorable results from the people around you at first. In fact, the people around you might get quite angry until they get used to you setting good boundaries with them. But, in the end, setting good boundaries keeps you healthy, both physically and mentally, because it keeps you from feeling overwhelmed and frustrated, it keeps you from over exerting yourself, and it keeps others from taking advantage of you. One example of setting good boundaries would be to let your coworker, who also happens to be a good friend of yours, know that you cannot cover her shift over the weekend because you already made a promise to go to the mountains with your family. A second example might be to let your boss know that you cannot do that extra report because you already feel overwhelmed by your current workload. Other examples of setting good boundaries are to NOT let others hit you, call you names, or take advantage of you. Please keep in mind that setting good boundaries means that you must have good communication skills and a willingness to follow through. If you would like more information on setting good boundaries, please contact me at ChristianPerez_MFT@yahoo.com.
Studies have shown, over and over again, that eating healthy, balanced meals not only keeps us healthy, but it helps us to feel better because we are getting the vitamins and nutrition that we need for healthy brain functioning. Eating properly means eating things like fruits and vegetables with every meal. Eating properly also means cutting back on fats, sweets, and caffeine, because these things can destabilize your blood sugar, make you irritable, and generally cause health problems in the long run. According to most research, eating 5-6 smaller balanced meals and drinking plenty of water throughout the day help to stabilize your blood-sugar, increase your metabolism, and increase brain functioning, leading to an overall sense of well-being. But what do these researches really know, right? Actually, for the past few years, I have been eating 5-6 small meals a day and I have noticed that I don’t get the same highs and lows during the day; my energy level seems to be pretty stable all day long. So, this is something that you might want to consider. And, if you think that you aren’t getting proper nutrition, you may want to consider taking a multivitamin and talking to a nutritionist for more information.
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