Positive affirmations are one of the best ways to reduce stress and increase your peace, happiness and success. Let me tell you how. A positive affirmation is a positive declaration that something is true. In other words, it is a statement of something that is true and it is stated in a positive way. An example of a positive affirmation is “I am a lovable person.” Saying something like, “I will not let this get me down,” is NOT a positive affirmation, because it is stated in a negative way. Positive affirmations help you to combat some of the negative or dysfunctional beliefs that you may have "learned" about yourself. Some examples of negative/dysfunctional beliefs are: "I don't deserve to be successful," or "I am an anxious person," or "Being happy is difficult and takes a lot of work," or "I am not smart enough, attractive enough, good enough, etc." These negative/dysfunctional beliefs become part of the subconscious mind and often do not allow you to move forward to become successful in life. In order to feel peaceful and happy and have the success you deserve, you must combat these beliefs, and this takes time. Research has shown that it takes one to three months of continuously repeating something before it even begins to become part of your subconscious. In order to completely replace old beliefs, it takes even longer. So, if you really want to get something accomplished, you should have a list of positive affirmations that are stated in a positive way, because they will help you to focus on the positive. If you want to get a LOT accomplished, you should have a LOT of positive affirmations, a whole list of them! I have always had a lot that I wanted to accomplish, so I do have a list of positive affirmations hanging on the mirror in my bathroom. Do you want to know what my list says? It says that I am calm, confident, safe and secure. It says that I am positive, outgoing, and caring. It says that I am excited about my future and my career. It says that I am intelligent, creative, healthy, energetic, and successful. And, if you want help starting a list of your own positive affirmations, email me at ChristianPerez_MFT@yahoo.com.
By now, you must know that organization plays a major role in relieving stress and increasing success. However, by staying organized, I do not mean that you should micromanage yourself (or anyone else, for that matter) by adhering to a strict schedule. “Staying organized” means keeping things neat and tidy, so you can easily find them. It also means making “TO DO” lists and keeping a day planner so you know when things are due, and how long it will take you to complete them. One of the things I do to stay organized is schedule all of my appointments on a calendar that I hang on my wall and look at every day. In addition to this, I also schedule reminders on my cell phone. This way, not only can I see my upcoming appointments on my calendar, but my cell phone also notifies me when my appointment is coming up. This helps me remember birthdays, anniversaries, dentist appointments, teleconferences, board meetings, and anything else that I want to schedule, including fun activities, such as break-times, weekly outings, and vacations. When I do this, my stress decreases and my productivity increases, which is important to being successful. If you notice that you are on your computer more than your cell phone, you may want to install scheduling software on your computer. Scheduling software will also notify you of your appointments and due dates every time you log on to your computer. So decrease your stress and increase success! Stay organized!
Here is a great exercise to help you improve your life right now! Get out two sheets of paper and fold each one down the center, so that you have a right and left side. On the left side of the first page, write "Energy Drainers." Underneath this, write down all the things in your life that are currently draining you of your energy. Remember to be brutally honest here. On the right side, at the top, write "plan." Underneath this, and next to each of your energy drainers, write down what you want to do to eliminate or decrease the energy drainer. Make sure your plan is specific and measurable. For example, you can write "My kids" as one of your energy drainers, with a plan of "hire a babbysitter for three hours a week so I can spend some time with my partner/spouse."
Now, do the same thing on the second page for "Energy Gainers." When you are finished, start putting your plans into action! By doing this, you can improve your emotional health (by having something to look forward to), decrease your stress, and avoid burnout. This exercise should be both positive and fun, and should help you to recognize the improvements/desires/goals that you want to make in your life, and what to do about them. Enjoy!
I read a very interesting article tonight in the October issue of Fortune magazine. In the article, Jim Collins, a business management guru, discusses top businesses that turned a profit every year for the past 30 years, even in tough times. He purports that the one thing that separates these top companies from other companies is that the top companies pace themselves. In other words, when times are good, top companies will hold themselves back and, for example, limit their rate of expansion to 20% so as not to grow too fast. When times are tough, top companies will push themselves to make the same rate of expansion. This allows them to set a stringent standard, which helps to build confidence, especially when performance is accomplished in adverse conditions. It also prevents them from entering a “boom” and “bust” cycle.
After reflecting on this article, I thought about how this relates to our personal lives. Many of us do not pace ourselves. When things are going well and we feel good, we try to get as much as we can done. We say “yes” to all the jobs that people throw at us: “Yes” to that extra project at work; “Yes” to babysitting for our sister; “Yes” to that little side job that will pay extra money (only to realize later that the “little” job turned into something monstrous!); “Yes” to helping our friends out; “Yes” to the… you get the picture. Suddenly, we realize we are exhausted. Our immune system tanks and we are sick in bed for the next two weeks. All the things that we were hoping to accomplish suddenly get put on hold and nothing gets done. However, if we pace ourselves, learn to occasionally say “No,” and accomplish things at a steady pace, we can accomplish a lot more, without burning ourselves out.
This sounds a little familiar to me. I’m having recollections of childhood story time… “The Tortoise and the Haire.”