Positive affirmations are one of the best ways to reduce stress and increase your peace, happiness and success. Let me tell you how. A positive affirmation is a positive declaration that something is true. In other words, it is a statement of something that is true and it is stated in a positive way. An example of a positive affirmation is “I am a lovable person.” Saying something like, “I will not let this get me down,” is NOT a positive affirmation, because it is stated in a negative way. Positive affirmations help you to combat some of the negative or dysfunctional beliefs that you may have "learned" about yourself. Some examples of negative/dysfunctional beliefs are: "I don't deserve to be successful," or "I am an anxious person," or "Being happy is difficult and takes a lot of work," or "I am not smart enough, attractive enough, good enough, etc." These negative/dysfunctional beliefs become part of the subconscious mind and often do not allow you to move forward to become successful in life. In order to feel peaceful and happy and have the success you deserve, you must combat these beliefs, and this takes time. Research has shown that it takes one to three months of continuously repeating something before it even begins to become part of your subconscious. In order to completely replace old beliefs, it takes even longer. So, if you really want to get something accomplished, you should have a list of positive affirmations that are stated in a positive way, because they will help you to focus on the positive. If you want to get a LOT accomplished, you should have a LOT of positive affirmations, a whole list of them! I have always had a lot that I wanted to accomplish, so I do have a list of positive affirmations hanging on the mirror in my bathroom. Do you want to know what my list says? It says that I am calm, confident, safe and secure. It says that I am positive, outgoing, and caring. It says that I am excited about my future and my career. It says that I am intelligent, creative, healthy, energetic, and successful. And, if you want help starting a list of your own positive affirmations, email me at ChristianPerez_MFT@yahoo.com.
How does change affect our stress levels? How does change affect our sense of peace, happiness, and success? Well, in a world that is constantly changing, we must adapt. This means that not only must we be accepting of change (which helps to decrease stress), but we must also make changes in the way we do things (which helps to increase success). Change is very stressful to many people. This is because we get accustomed to doing the same things every day, even if that means putting up with that abusive boss at work, or those unruly children at home. At least we know that if we respond in the same way we have in the past, we will have our job tomorrow and our kids will still love us. We definitely do not like to think about what would happen if we rock the boat, because who knows what will happen. Right? Additionally, if we are confronted with something new, or something that we have not dealt with before, we don’t know how to react because we don’t know what will work. So, we have to put some thought and effort into it. And, no one really likes to do that unless they are working on a crossword puzzle! But there are actually three things that we can do in stressful situations: we can either change the way we think about it, change the way we deal with it, or remove ourselves from the situation completely. But in order to relieve stress and be successful, we need to change something. Since we usually can’t change anything or anyone else, we must change ourselves! If you would like to talk with me about some different ways to deal with your stressful situation, please send an email to ChristianPerez_MFT@yahoo.com.
_Some of you have asked me for some direction or suggestions on what you can do to identify areas in your lives where you may need help. So, I would like to share this questionnaire that I give to my coaching clients to help them start thinking about areas of their lives that need improvement. Low scores (or a high score on "Guilt") indicate that you may want or need some improvement in that area of your life. I hope it helps! And, if you have any questions, please feel free to contact me.
Please rate your life in the following areas, where 0 is low and 10 is high.